Shopaholic Mama Returns

Shopaholic Mama has surfaced.  I haven’t been really bad, but I haven’t been particularly good either.  I could make excuses.  Spring fever gave me uncontrollable impulses to buy skirts and espadrilles.  It was Mother’s Day and I really, really deserved a new pair of (expensive) jeans.  In Florida, one must have several dozen sundresses to survive hurricane season.  But, shopaholics, like all addicts, are full of excuses.

I’ve been online window-shopping.  Nothing’s been purchased, but a few shopping carts have been filled.  Yesterday, at Bloomingdales.com I found a style story called “Back to Basics: Top 10 Essentials.”  The text under the headline said: “From the white tee to the black blazer, these ten key pieces serve as the foundation for timeless style.”  Once you clicked through, you could shop a Lookbook and purchase a Diane von Furstenberg black wrap dress ($325), a Theory white tank top ($105), Citizens of Humanity boot cut jeans ($188), a Catherine Malandrino black cardigan ($345) and so on.

Mortgage payment or timeless style?

Don’t worry. I wasn’t tempted to buy any of it…not at those prices.  I’m no stranger to Bloomingdale’s – even as a little girl I had seven days of the week “Bloomies” underwear – but, believe it or not, I would have a hard time spending $300 on a sweater even if I could.

The Lookbook reminded me of Six Items Or Less, a social experiment where participants choose six items of clothing and pledge to wear only those items of clothing for a month (shoes and accessories are unlimited).  It’s a statement on consumerism, an exercise in living with less, or whatever you want it to be.  I think a lot of people who do it are surprised at how liberated (or livid) they feel about sticking to six items.

The founders organize the experiment in mass a few times a year.  I don’t know when the next one is scheduled (I know I just missed one in April), but I’m inspired to do it when the next cycle begins.  When I told my friend Karen about it, she said it was a cool concept and then said something like, “Are you *$#%! crazy?” (I’m paraphrasing).  Mike’s exact words were, “You’d never last a month.”  Hmm.  They’re probably both right and that’s exactly why I want to do it.

Until I get news about the next Six Items Or Less cycle, I’m back in rehab.  Starting today, May 20th, I will buy nothing but food, gas and diapers for one month, except for the pedicure I’m getting later on today.  (Why do I always have a pedicure scheduled when I go in shopaholic rehab?)  I’m also going to think about creating my own uniform of fashion essentials…from my closet, not the mall.  Maybe a style uniform is the cure I’ve been searching for?  At the very least, I hope it will distract me from Bloomingdales.com.

Wish me luck.

Do you have a style uniform?

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Nice Goes A Long Way

My morning was filled with meetings about Dylan.  At 8:30, I had a conference with Dylan’s teacher at school.  At 11:00, I had a phone conversation with Dylan’s occupational therapist.  At 11:30, Mike and I had a meeting with Dylan’s child therapist (a.k.a. the Feelings Doctor).  All three of them made me the happiest Mama in the universe. 
They all told me, in one way or another, that Dylan has had a dramatic transformation.  That he’s overcome his shyness.  That he’s gaining confidence.  That he’s a caring boy and a good friend.  That he’s going to be just fine.  That he’s happy.
I’m not telling you any of this to brag.  I’m telling you this because sometimes it just feels good to be told something nice…about yourself, your kids or anything at all.  I have a spring in my step today.  A twinkle in my eye!  (Wait, that might be a twitch.)  All I’m saying is, nice goes a long way.  If you’ve been meaning to say something nice to someone in your life, do it today.  Do it now.  You just might make them the happiest [fill in the blank] in the universe.  Like me.

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