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The Time When We Were On The Same Page (And Then We Weren’t)

It seems like my kids are never on the same page. When one kid is sick, the other one is healthy. When one kids wants to watch a movie, the other one wants to go outside. When one kid wants the lights on, the other wants them off. When one kid wants elbows, the other one wants bow ties. When one kid is afraid of the dentist, the other isn’t.

Oh the stories I could tell you about taking Dylan to the dentist! (The time I chased him into the parking lot comes to mind easily!) Years ago, our dentist suggested that more frequent visits might help desensitize him. She’s one of the wonderful medical professionals in our lives that truly understands SPD, so I genuinely appreciated her suggestion. Still, I couldn’t help but think of a few suggestions for her, like having an open bar in the waiting room or a child drop-off lane out front, because the thought of taking Dylan to the dentist more than absolutely necessary was mindboggling. Every six months, we endured the sometimes good, the mostly bad, and the often ugly. I hoped for the best, expected the worst, and prayed for no cavities, because surely he (and I) would need sedation to survive such a sensory calamity.

During that same time frame, Riley was a champ. For some reason, going to the dentist was as fun for him as going to the zoo or Costco. He was so easy at cleanings that I could scroll through my Facebook feed during appointments.

Thankfully, the stress of taking Dylan to the dentist eased up over time. Eventually, he sat in the chair by himself. He got used to the taste of the toothpaste (vanilla only, thank you very much) and tolerated the sound and sensation of the vibrating toothbrush, the water squirter, and the suction-thingy. He gagged less, and X-rays were doable because they got a fancy new machine that took images without having to stick anything in the back of his mouth.   I wish they had that at my dentist’s office!

It goes without saying that around the time Dylan finally chilled out at the dentist, Riley became deathly afraid.  About a year ago, he had to have his two front teeth extracted because of an unfortunate face plant that happened when he was two years old. The initial incident “immobilized” his front teeth.  They hung on for a while, but by the time he turned four, an infection sprouted in his gums, a scenario we were warned was likely to happen. Sadly, the extraction traumatized him. The poor kid was convinced that if he opened his mouth, they would pull another tooth! After that, Dylan was the easy one (by comparison), and Riley was so difficult that I was once asked to wait outside so they could do whatever it was they did (and didn’t want parents to see or hear) to get the cleaning done.

Last week, I took both kids to the dentist at the same time. I figured simultaneous appointments would be okay since Riley was (most likely) the wild card. If he needed some extra encouragement or a hug (or a bribe), I could give him the attention he needed.

The stakes were pretty high. On one end of the room was Dylan with SPD, and on the other end of the room was Riley with PTSD. Not surprisingly, nothing went as planned, but, thankfully, it all played out in a very good way. No one cried or screamed, no one gagged or tried to escape, and no one asked me to wait outside. The boys had a race to see who would finish first (including flossing and the fluoride treatment), they didn’t fight when Dylan won (by a hair!), and they even chose the same prize from the treasure box. Everything was totally and completely okay. They were fine and finally on the same page!

That is, until our dentist informed me that it’s time to seal Dylan’s molars, a procedure that will protect his back teeth from cavities but will require him to have his mouth open really, really wide for approximately forever fifteen minutes. It’s no big deal, but for a kid with SPD, it’s new and unfamiliar and scary and stressful and a very big deal.

“Do you want us to do it right now?” our dentist asked.

I looked at Dylan. All the color had drained from his face. He was terrified.

“Maybe next time,” I said.

And just like that, we weren’t on the same page anymore.

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Everything

Today, Riley had his second front tooth pulled.  It began to hurt last week and an x-ray showed a possible abscess growing in the gum, so we decided to pull it.  Actually, it was Riley’s choice, and I’m proud of him for being so brave.  I didn’t blog about it before now, because I’ve been cool as a cucumber about the whole thing.

Are you wondering if someone hacked into my account and is pretending to be the Runaway Mama, because surely the Runaway Mama would not be “cool as a cucumber” in this type of situation?

It’s me, my friends.  It’s the real Runaway Mama.  Truthfully, my anxiety couldn’t be worse.  And it’s not just about what’s happened to me personally in recent weeks.  It’s also that monster typhoon in the Philippines.  And the killer tornadoes in the Midwest.   And that adorable Batkid in San Francisco.   And Sandy Hook.  Those precious 7th birthdays just keep coming.  And the damn healthcare Web site.  And Matt Lauer dressed as Pamela Anderson from “Baywatch” on Halloween.  (That image will haunt me forever.)  It’s Everything, folks.  I have no more room in my head or my heart for anything bad, sad, or appalling (Mr. Lauer).  The concert is sold out.  The flight is over-booked.  There are no vacancies at the inn.

Everything PLUS Riley’s abscessed front tooth should have been the straw that broke my back.  But I’m pretty sure I’m already broken, so even if Riley’s second tooth extraction was a big deal – and certainly it was – it just didn’t feel like one because how could it be when we’re all healthy and alive with a roof over our heads and food in the fridge and a new episode of “The Good Wife” on the DVR.  In all honesty, I lost more sleep worrying that Riley couldn’t have Kefir this morning before the procedure than I did about the procedure itself.

It’s just a tooth, and his permanent front teeth deep inside his gums are in excellent condition.  In addition, he’s a wonderful patient (unlike his brother), and I’ve been informed that being the one dude in his class with a missing tooth has given him some serious street cred.  When his friends catch a glimpse of his new grill (or lack there of) tomorrow morning, he’ll be the coolest cat in town.

Besides all that, symmetry takes the edge off, well, Everything.

Before:

rileybefore

Eek!

After:

rileyafter

Aah.

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