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Shout Out

Just when I thought I’d recovered from spring break, Mike left for a weeklong business trip to London.  I’ve been on my own with the boys since last Saturday.  A year ago, these trips terrified me.  Riley was still a baby and Dylan was too young to understand Mike’s sudden absence.  It was just so hard.  It still is, but a year later, the boys are older and more understanding, and I guess I am, too.  I hate to be a Complaining Mama, especially when there are so many other things in the world to worry about, so I’m dedicating this post to everyone and everything I’m grateful for this week.

First and foremost, I’d like to give a shout out to all the Single Mamas in the world.  It is so hard to be the one – the only one – to get up with the boys in the morning, get them through the whole day and evening and then be the one – the only one – to put them to bed.  On some nights, by the time we get to the teeth-brushing portion of bedtime, I want to strangle them with the floss.  When Mike is out of town, I’m reminded of how fortunate I am when he is home to be able to walk away from the madness when I need to.  
Next, my inner circle.  My in-laws and sister-in-law, who live nearby, go into “stand-by” mode when Mike goes out of town and I love them for it.  They’ve come over almost every day this week to distract the kids and me for a few hours.  My parents, who live in Massachusetts, call almost every day, and my friend and fellow Mama, Karen, calls me at least half a dozen times a day to make sure I’m still standing.  As isolated as I sometimes feel, I’m definitely not alone.
Sudafed.  Riley caught a cold last weekend and has systematically passed it on to everyone in the house.  Even Mike has been complaining of a sore throat in London.  The only thing harder than being a Single Mama is being a Sick Single Mama.  Sudafed has been a good friend this week.
Retail therapy.  I know what you’re thinking.  Shopaholic Mama is at it again with the emotional shopping.  Well, I needed it.  I found a sun dress at Macy’s on the clearance rack for $29.99 (original price was over $100!).  I bought it and I’m not returning it.  It was worth every penny and every ounce of guilt!
Dylan and Riley.  Despite the sporadic bouts of wrestling, hitting, screaming, and whining, the boys have been really good this week.  When Riley cries out for Daddy, Dylan tells him, “It’s okay, Riley.  Daddy will be home in a few days.  He loves you and misses you.”  And Riley.  He gives really good hugs and he’s slept until at least 6:30 every morning this week.  My boys are taking care of me as much as I’m taking care of them.
Finally, I need to give a shout out to Mike.  My globetrotting husband is working his butt off for us.  I may be a Single, Sick, Shopaholic Mama this week, but I’m a Grateful one, too.

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Reading. Writing. Running. Yoga. Repeat.

Mike got home from London late Friday night. After holding it all together for nearly seven days, I marked his return with a raging headache, and by Saturday afternoon I had a fever. There was finally another responsible adult in the house and my body surrendered to the exhaustion. Thankfully there was no flu relapse. It was just a friendly reminder that I’m not superwoman.

I’m going to a restaurant grand-opening party tomorrow night with my sister-in-law. Of course, I decided I have nothing to wear (warning sign!), so I went to the mall on Sunday afternoon to buy something (oh no!). The mall was packed with holiday shoppers and I didn’t like anything I saw in the stores (good!), but I felt like I had to come home with something (bad!). I ended up buying one shirt (compulsive purchase!), but I knew I was going to return it by the time I got in the car to drive home (buyer’s remorse!).

Being a shopaholic is almost as exhausting as being alone with my kids for a week.

Was this my relapse rock bottom? Maybe. Just to be safe, I’m going back into rehab for the holidays. I will shop for what I must and buy if I find something I absolutely love (on budget!), but there will be no more mall cruising.

I re-read “Rehab 101” from September where I reflected on my original one month shopping freeze. What I feel now – anxiety, stress and frustration – is exactly what I felt then. And what made me feel better then is the same today – reading, writing, and running. And now yoga. Going for an afternoon run would have been a much better idea than racing around the mall like a crazy person. I guess practice will make perfect for this shopping addict.

Here’s my new treatment plan to tackle holiday-induced, exhaustion-inspired and anxiety-riddled shopaholic urges:

·For starters, I’m reading “Anthropology of an American Girl” for my next book club meeting. It’s over 600 pages and I have three weeks to read it. In mommy time, that’s like having a few hours. I’m in trouble, but I’m going to give it my best shot.

·I’m writing as often as I can. It makes me feel good. Period.

·I’m signing up for another 5K in December, and I plan to run a 5-miler in February. I’d love to find a 10K to run in March or April but I haven’t found anything local yet. The Runaway Mama is literally running away!

·I will go to yoga every Monday morning…except for next week. I have a colonoscopy follow-up appointment with the gastroenterologist. That should be fun.

As for the new shirt, it’s definitely going back. I went shopping in my own closet on Sunday (after the dreadful mall trip) and found a perfectly adorable outfit to wear to the restaurant party. As it turns out, I didn’t need to go shopping. Surprise, surprise…

Reading. Writing. Running. Yoga. Repeat. Wish me luck, my friends.

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